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Relationship Attachment Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Are you securely attached in your relationship?

A securely attached person finds it easy to trust others and is willing to depend on them. But someone who is insecurely attached may spend too much time worrying that a partner will abandon them, and have a hard time in the relationship. Take this test to see how securely attached you are.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I try to work through relationship difficulties.
Disagree
Agree
2. I like showing my affection.
Disagree
Agree
3. I am emotionally close in my relationships.
Disagree
Agree
4. I can express my emotions.
Disagree
Agree
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5. My partner cares about me.
Disagree
Agree
6. I have strong relationships.
Disagree
Agree
7. People say I can come across distant.
Disagree
Agree
8. I open up to my partner easily.
Disagree
Agree
9. I am comfortable being alone.
Disagree
Agree
10. I prefer to be unattached.
Disagree
Agree
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11. I can express my needs.
Disagree
Agree
12. I try to keep my emotions and vulnerabilities hidden from others.
Disagree
Agree
13. People say I prematurely end romantic relationships.
Disagree
Agree
14. Close relationships don't scare me.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I often find myself wanting more space in my relationships.
Disagree
Agree
16. I feel comfortable depending on my partner.
Disagree
Agree
17. I rarely feel stressed or anxious about the state of my romantic relationships.
Disagree
Agree
18. I know my partner really loves me.
Disagree
Agree
19. My partners have told me that I keep my distance emotionally.
Disagree
Agree
20. I can get nervous when my partner is not available for me.
Disagree
Agree
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Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone who wishes to gauge how secure they feel in their relationships. It is designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic.

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How to Get Help

A therapist or counselor can help guide you in improving your relationship security. Seek a mental healthcare professional on the Psychology Today Therapy Directory

Sources

J. Bowlby, M. Ainsworth. The Attachment Styles Test.

Brennan, K., Clark, C., Shaver, P. The Experiences in Close Relationships-Revised Questionnaire (ECR-R). 

D. Griffin, B.K. Bartholomew. The Relationship Scales Questionnaire (RSQ)