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Gaslighting Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Do you doubt your sense of reality?

Gaslighting occurs when an individual uses control, deceit, and manipulation to ultimately make someone question their memory and sense of reality. The gaslighter can be a partner, family member, colleague, or anyone with whom a relationship is established. This test should be taken with one individual in mind. It can be taken multiple times if you’re concerned about multiple relationships.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how often the statement applies to you.

Never
Never
Sometimes
Always
Always
1. My interactions with this person leave me feeling disoriented.
Never
Always
2. My point of view is dismissed.
Never
Always
3. I’m told that I’m too sensitive, paranoid, or “crazy.”
Never
Always
4. I get accused of overreacting when I try to explain my feelings.
Never
Always
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5. Objects, information, or events are concealed from me.
Never
Always
6. I tend to apologize without knowing what I did wrong.
Never
Always
7. My perception, knowledge, or memory is challenged.
Never
Always
8. I feel unsettled after interactions with this person.
Never
Always
9. I feel confused or unsure about my own memory.
Never
Always
10. This person makes me feel like I’m unstable.
Never
Always
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11. I choose my words carefully when I’m with this person.
Never
Always
12. This person tells me that other people are not trustworthy.
Never
Always
13. I feel that I have to defend my version of reality.
Never
Always
14. This person lies to me.
Never
Always
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15. This person treats me badly but then pretends it never happened.
Never
Always
16. I lack confidence in my decision-making abilities.
Never
Always
17. This person tries to convince others of their version of an event, rather than mine.
Never
Always
18. I feel like I'm losing my sense of identity in my relationship with this person.
Never
Always
19. This person tries to convince me that I’m not good at things.
Never
Always
20. This person questions my point of view on events.
Never
Always
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Who Is This Gaslighting Test For?

This test is for anyone who wants to assess if they are being gaslighted. It’s designed for adults and is intended to be taken with one specific individual in mind.

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How to Get Help with Gaslighting

If you think you may be a victim of gaslighting, finding a therapist may be beneficial. Find a professional near you in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Bhatti, M. M., et al. Victim Gaslighting Questionnaire (VGQ)

Hailes, H.P., and Goodman, L.A. Gaslighting in Relationships Scale (GRS) 

Jacobson, N., and Gottman, J. Emotional Abuse Questionnaire (EAQ).

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