The Hidden Cost of Your Evening Glass of Wine

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"I need a stiff drink!" "Let’s drown our sorrows." "I just need to unwind with a glass of wine."

Phrases like these are so common, we barely think twice about them. Alcohol has become deeply woven into our daily lives and culture. It’s often seen as a go-to way to cope with stress, disappointment, or just the pressures of everyday life. Got bad news? Feeling overwhelmed? Need to relax? Society has taught us that it’s totally normal—even expected—to pour a big glass of wine, toss back a couple of tequila shots, or order a double whiskey.

In fact, using alcohol to handle stress is often not only accepted but actively encouraged by friends, coworkers, and the media. Movies and TV shows constantly show characters doing the same, reinforcing the idea that this is just how we deal with life.

But here’s the truth: alcohol is the one of the most widely used drugs in the world. And the way we’ve normalized it’s use as a coping mechanism deserves a closer look.

The Hidden Cost of Your Evening Glass of Wine

Alcohol is a toxic, psychoactive substance that can lead to dependence. It’s also been officially classified as a Group 1 carcinogen by the International Agency for Research on Cancer—putting it in the same category as asbestos, radiation, and tobacco. Research shows that alcohol contributes to at least seven different types of cancer, including some of the most common, like colon cancer and breast cancer. In fact, earlier this year, former U.S. Surgeon General Vivek H. Murthy issued a public health advisory warning about the clear link between alcohol use and cancer risk.

What’s concerning is that less than half of Americans are aware that drinking alcohol increases their risk of cancer. As a psychiatrist who often discusses alcohol use with patients, this lines up with what I see in practice. Many people simply don’t know that alcohol is a carcinogen. Even more common is the belief that low levels of alcohol—like a glass of wine a day—are actually good for your health, especially for the heart and brain. But that idea is being seriously questioned. In January 2023, the World Health Organization published a statement in The Lancet Public Health making it clear: When it comes to alcohol, there is no safe amount that doesn’t affect your health.

5 Things to Think About Before Reaching for a Drink to Cope With Stress

1. Alcohol is a known carcinogen—and a cancer diagnosis can deeply affect your mental health.
   Depression and anxiety are incredibly common among people with cancer. Research shows that up to 1 in 5 cancer patients experience depression, and 1 in 10 struggle with anxiety—regardless of where they are in their treatment or disease process. In fact, according to international diagnostic guidelines, about 35–40% of cancer patients meet the criteria for a psychiatric disorder. These mental health challenges don’t just impact emotional well-being—they can significantly reduce the overall quality of life for persons living with cancer. The global rate of depression among cancer patients is currently estimated at 27%. This is a noticeable increase compared to earlier data, and this trend appears to be on the rise.
2. That “relaxing” drink may be increasing your anxiety.
   While alcohol can feel calming in the moment, it’s a short-lived effect. Once the pleasurable effects of alcohol wear off, anxiety can rebound—often worse than before. Over time, this can make stress and mood disorders more difficult to manage.
3. Regular drinking can sneak up on you—building tolerance, dependence, and emotional numbness.
   What starts as the occasional glass of wine to unwind can quickly become a nightly ritual. Your body builds tolerance, meaning you need more to feel the same effects. Emotionally, alcohol can dull not just stress but joy, connection, and motivation—leaving you feeling more flat than relaxed.
4. Alcohol disrupts sleep, even if it helps you fall asleep.
   Many people use alcohol to wind down at night, but it actually interferes with sleep architecture. It may help you fall asleep faster, but it reduces the quality of your rest—leading to more fatigue, irritability, and difficulty coping with stress the next day.
5. There are healthier, more sustainable ways to manage stress.
   Whether it’s exercise, deep breathing, journaling, therapy, or connecting with others, there are countless tools for managing stress that don’t carry the risks alcohol does. Exploring these options might not provide the instant hit that a drink does—but they build resilience, not reliance.