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Vulnerability Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

How vulnerable are you?

Vulnerability is scary. Opening up to someone about yourself, your secrets, and your desires also opens you up to rejection. However, the upside of vulnerability is high: it can foster intimacy and understanding in a relationship and create strong emotional bonds between you and others. It can even help us understand ourselves better. How vulnerable are you? See where you fall on this scale.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. I don’t usually share personal failures with close friends or family.
Disagree
Agree
2. I’m afraid to share my deepest fears with my partner.
Disagree
Agree
3. Sometimes, I feel like I have to apologize for who I am.
Disagree
Agree
4. Vulnerability is a sign of weakness.
Disagree
Agree
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5. I’m nervous my partner will think less of me if I share my feelings.
Disagree
Agree
6. Opening up makes me more susceptible to being taken advantage of or hurt.
Disagree
Agree
7. I’m willing to sacrifice some level of intimacy to avoid sharing my secrets.
Disagree
Agree
8. I don’t want to tell my partner my true desires.
Disagree
Agree
9. I find it difficult to admit when I don’t know something.
Disagree
Agree
10. I’m never the first to say “I love you” in relationships.
Disagree
Agree
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11. It’s difficult for me to share the challenges I’ve faced in life.
Disagree
Agree
12. I worry that if I show my true self, my partner will no longer feel the same way about me.
Disagree
Agree
13. I don’t feel like I can show people who I really am.
Disagree
Agree
14. I find it difficult to admit when I am wrong.
Disagree
Agree
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15. I don’t show others what I’m ashamed of about myself.
Disagree
Agree
16. I don’t like asking for help.
Disagree
Agree
17. I find it difficult to apologize, even if I know I’m wrong.
Disagree
Agree
18. I avoid speaking up about what I want.
Disagree
Agree
19. I’m rarely the first to make up after a fight.
Disagree
Agree
20. I think that vulnerability is a necessary part of emotional connection.
Disagree
Agree
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Who Is This Test For?

This test is for anyone concerned about their vulnerability. This test is designed for adults and is not intended to be prescriptive. 

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How to Get Help

If you need help with vulnerability, speaking to a mental health professional can help. You can easily find a therapist in your area on the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

Bruk, et al. (2018). Beautiful mess effect. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspa0000120

​Ford, et al. (2018). The psychological health benefits of accepting negative emotions and thoughts. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

Rossignac-Milon, et al. (2021). Merged minds. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.

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